My son is going through a phase called "Daddy-is-the-only-person-that-exists-to-me-phase". Yep, mommy is non-existent or, only when it matters, like for food or cleaning up after him. I am trying to figure out what it is? I play video games with him, I watch all his Nickelodeon shows, listen to his music, buy him things that interest him, but no, mom is just that lady that lives here and gets me food and drink.
So, I'm feeling a bit left out. There are signs around my house that read "No Moms Allowed" and "No Girls Allowed" (I am the only girl here besides my cat, ZuZu). There are times when I don't mind it like when I can just sit and relax because all he wants to talk to and be with is Daddy, but I kind of miss my priority status and "THE MOM!". Not sure how long this is going to last. I guess I should enjoy it though. It's just that part of me is feeling very lonely. I do take solace in the fact that if he is a world class athlete someday he will look into the camera and say "Hi Mom!" : )
I think it is just a phase that all little boys go through. Like you said, enjoy the "me " time while you have it. :) But I understand how you feel. Maybe try reminding him that you need to hear some words of love sometimes, so you don't feel left out. I think kids at this age really do understand empathy and if he knows he is hurting your feelings, I bet he would try to make things better. If you ever need an ear or a shoulder, I'm always here for you. :) Love, Rebecca
ReplyDeleteI agree I think it's just a phase, try not to overthink it. I have some ideas on how you can try to fix it too but I'll send it over in an email.
ReplyDeleteI know it must be hard, but he'll have his moments when he needs each of you for different reasons. Try to be thankful that he has such a great Dad and that he appreciates him. Too many little boys don't have that special man in their life that they can look up to that takes time for them. He's an awesome kid because of all that you and your hubby have done for him. Welcome the break and relish the chance to take time for you. He'll be tracking you down again soon enough!
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